What would you do about boyfriend?

so me and my boyfriend are expecting our first child together in july this should be so excited right?





well im gonna outline acouple problems and i need to know the correct way to go about them.......





1st we got into a huge fight over an earring I found in his car and he ended up grabbing me up off the floor by my hair, trying to choke me and when i screamed begin to cover my mouth all while i was 7 months pregnant and say nobodys hurting me. i heard he abused his ex girlfriend which he currently still denies. anyways he tried to commit suicide in front of me by downing a bottle of tylone pm and then he began to slice his wrist when i tried to stop him he then cut my fingers! police came to my house and he turned them against me telling me that he said he didnt have a problem and that i was blowing this way out of porportion! thanks milwaukee police for being so sympathatic towards pregnant women!





2nd: i helped him get his car fixed and also got it out of the tow back in april, i gave him my bank card to deposit the money he owes me back. somewhere in that same night my card got "stolen" his words not mine and now i am 1500 dollars in the negative with the bank. when i called them they told me he was the one on camera 11 times withdrawing my money and he says he only withdrew 100 dollars but even so he wasnt supposed to be taking money out my account. he did it once before and swore up and down he would never do it again just to do it again!





3rd recently i found out his real age, he told me he was 32 then 34 come to find out he's 43 and i am 22 hes older than my mom i feel like anna nicole smith!





4th he brings his son over my house every weekend, hasnt not helped me pay rent since march and recently got hired at papa johns and has not paid me any money he owes or tried to give me money on rent or for my child!





5th I dont know how to get him out of my apartment because hes not on my lease and if they find out hes been living there i will get evicted and have to move back to chicago and stay with my grandparents and this is not their responsiblity to take of me or my son.





6th everytime i try to break up with this dude he changes the subject or walks out the room! he told me if we go and be friends that he will be jealous of every guy that tries to talk to me and i am afraid he will humilate me at school! (we go to the same college)





this is all bad and i know i need to start standing up for myself but why do i feel so bad when i do and why am i worried about him being homeless? oh and he denied my son to his ex girlfriend and he lied to my face and told me he doesnt talk to her anymore but i snuck through his phone and saw private facebook messages from her. also my whole pregnancy everytime we go in public he makes me feel inscure by checking out the girls who had the body i had before i got pregnant. he ran away all my friends and now i live in this apartment with him and i am misserable.....please help me! he says that hes only human and this can be fixed and he'll pay me back my money, he also says that i'm all he has and he loves me but how could you do that to somebody you love? i wanna break up how do i do this in the safest way possible without getting abused? what do you think?





my son is going to born next month and i really need to be in a healthy state emotionally and physically!|||He really isnt just human. This is plain and simple cruelty and I think its high time you put this baby first. Get him out of your life, you tell him plain and straight that you want nothing to do with him, and unless he gets himself sorted out, then he wont have nothing to do with the baby to. If he nearly killed you while you were pregnant, do you really think this is a man you want your child to be around?


When you become a parent, your responsibility goes towards your childs and its needs come first.


You need to provide this child with a healthy and SAFE life which means if you have to, you will have to get away from him.


He has no right over the baby with the way he is behaving, even if he is the biological father. Being a father is more than just having the genes, it takes responsibilty, caring, commitment, protection and he does not follow any of those needs.


Go to the police, go to your doctors and find out about people who can help you get away from him. Tell the police he has attacked you on several incidents and you are worried for your baby.


He does not love you, anyone who can abuse you like that does not love you.


Maybe its you should go live with your grandparents. They will help you if you explain and will help you get back on your feet. What would you rather have, stay with your grandparents or stay with him?


Please, get out of it while you can before you get hurt or the baby does. I dont think you could live with the guilt if he did something to your baby, and honestly i think he could from what you have said on here.


If you wont move to your grandparents for yourself, then move for the baby. Like i said his needs come first!


Good luck and please take care. You can do much better than this =]|||wow! i read the first paragraph and i already i knew what my answer would be. your boyfriend sounds like he is SICK in the head and he is a THREAT to YOU and your CHILD! you need to get some help and get as far away from this psycho as possible!!! please do not fall for these lies he tells you about loving you. some one who loves you does not pick you up by your hair and attempt to commit suicide in front of you! he does NOT love you! he is USING YOU for money, sex and shelter!





you need to tell your parents and friends about this and seek some help. it is not healthy for you to be around this guy and personally i would get as far away from him as possible! don't wait til its too late!|||Tell him how it is, and that he needs to find somewhere else to live immediately, if he doesn't listen then call the cops and have them explain that to him. I wouldn't list him as father on the birth certificate, yeah it might help with getting support but what are the odds you're ever going to see a dime from him anyways? He's 43, he's never going to change, pretty safe bet he's cheating on you, etc. so tell him to move back with his ex and just leave you to live your life... Moving back to Chicago probably wouldn't be the worst idea, especially if he doesn't know where to look for you...